My caring and generous best friend Christine (the one who brought me not just one, but two pairs of pants) is visiting us in Australia with her fantastic husband and kids, who my husband, kids and myself so conveniently adore. The adventures diving on the Great Barrier Reef, feeding crocodiles, and snuggling koala bears have been as plentiful as they’ve been memorable. What I love most though is our alone time spent together in quiet conversation. Inevitably without it ever being the intention, I learn something about her, or me, or just life in general. It’s wonderful that no matter the amount of time we spend with someone, there’s always more to explore.
One recent conversation was about how it sometimes seems that when a windfall of money comes our way (which of course we worked mercilessly to manifest), there seems to be a corresponding claim to the funds – unforeseeable healthcare expenses, or a sudden home repair, or an unexpected a tax bill, etc. “Easy come, easy go” as the expression goes. But in making such a statement, while lassiez-faire, it also seems a bit defeatist.
We decided to change the expression and in so doing, alter our thinking as well. Our refreshed, reconfigured approach to money is to say “Easy go, easy come,” as in acknowledging that what leaves us will return. Money flows to me, just as easily as it flows from me.
Money comes in, it goes out. It goes out, it comes in. A healthy attachment to money recognizes and appreciates that finances flow. The more we recognize this fluidity, the more we can accept whatever stage we are in the process. And moreover and more importantly, we can trust that it is a process. And trust that wherever we are in the process, we are in the flow.
This reminds me of a recent lesson in the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Training Program I’m currently enrolled in. The topic was pain, and the profound teaching was that pain is inevitable. We will experience pain, and it will likely come in both its physical and emotional form. But it is the suffering from pain that is optional. Pain is certain, suffering is optional.
Suffering is wanting something other than what is. With intention and direction, we can learn to accept what is. That’s not to say that the pain will be removed or even relieved. But there is something liberating, and even comforting that comes when we face the pain, acknowledge that it’s there, and accept it for being present. Pain is part of our human experience. We don’t have to like it, but also we don’t have to push it away or wish it otherwise (i.e., we don’t need to suffer).
What is, is what is meant to be – whether it’s headaches that pound, heartaches that pierce, or hard-earned, year-end bonus checks that go poof. We are in the flow of living, and isn’t that a great thing?! Isn’t living worthwhile?!
With loving gratitudes,