How I Pray

My friends, husband, Mom and I recently took this test to learn our “Love Language.” The five options are: Words of Praise, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Touch, and Presents. It’s so fun to know what our loved one’s Love Language is so we know how to show each other love. Mine is quality time, so if you call me […]

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Abiding by Abundance

The Almighty is Abundant. The Almighty has everything to give, and the Almighty generously gives it. When we carry this with us, throughout our day from sunlight to moonlight, we liberate ourselves from feelings of despondency. Hope remains. Hope reigns because circumstances can and do change. From my experience, abiding by Abundance is best implemented with a two-pronged approach: Preserve and […]

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Giving Without Guarding – Loving with Wisdom & Compassion

Sometimes being compassionate means practicing “self-compassion.” What does that mean? It means being kind, considerate and forgiving to yourself, so that you stop allowing others to mistreat you. In the book I’m reading called Advice Not Given by Mark Epstein, he describes this as “idiot compassion” or compassion without wisdom. It’s what happens when we stay in abusive relationships and […]

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Why Losing is Winning in Relationships

It’s March Madness, and like for most ordinary, crazed-born-and-bred UNC Tarheel fans, the NCAA tournament brings joys and pangs. Winning is the goal, but it’s not always the outcome. This year was crushing. Last year was celebratory. We fans watch and become captivated and invested because we don’t know the outcome. But winning shouldn’t always be the goal.  Perhaps in sports […]

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Judge Not

I’m not going to blog about Bob Marley again, but the concept of “judging” has been on my mind, and of course his prophetic lyrics come to mind: “Judge not before you judge yourself.” In the works of various Spiritual Masters (Echkart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Thomas Moore, Mooji, etc.) judgement is an important concept. Gabby Bernstein just wrote a book […]

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How Can We Truly Help Others?

How is the best way to help others when we see they are hurting? What is our role? What is our responsibility? What even, is our right? I’ve been struggling recently with the dilemma of seeing friends suffer from what I can only describe as self-inflicted pain. For the majority of us (those not suffering from mentally illness which is a […]

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Why Relationships are More Important than Resolutions

No one wants to read another post about New Years resolutions, and I sure don’t want to write one. It’s a New Year. We should feel renewed, as the calendar and our annual quest for accomplishments resets. Instead, let’s talk about another R word…an even more relevant one…relationships. Our world revolves around our relationships. Whether it’s with ourself, our boss, […]

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The Problem with Death

I just got back in town after attending the funeral of someone who was dearly loved and who died suddenly, unexpectedly, at the young age of 47. He leaves behind two children and his wife of 21 years, my college roommate. The collective sadness at the varied gatherings was nearly crippling. The pit in my stomach still remains. We lost […]

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What’s the Lesson to Learn Here?

A friend recently asked what my blog was about. “Not getting what you want” was my answer. Hah! How depressing?! My intent was not to write about how to sustain belief in the face of disappointment. But yet, that’s what I’ve been writing about. So I suppose that’s the lesson I’ve been needing to learn. When we struggle, with mindfulness […]

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How To Accept Disappointment

It’s a Sunday, the one before Thanksgiving, and I find myself in my office. Sad. Teary. Alone. The boys are at the movies. My daughter is playing with a friend. And here I am. I want to be reading a book in a bubble bath, but the time feels like it should be spent on reflecting. On looking back at […]

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